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A client asked, “Jeff, what strategies, attitudes or behaviors, will help me drive results daily and for the long-term?”

Super question! For days or years…of significance and success, be sure to implement these “fantastic four!”

  1. To destroy an enemy, make him your friend
  2. Deliver image impact
  3. Vote for value
  4. Know who pays your salary


In Mario Puzo’s best-selling book, The Godfather, Don Corleone calmly states, “Never get angry. Never make a threat. Reason with people.” While you may not agree with the Don’s method of negotiation, it’s hard to find fault with his philosophy!

Like the Don, Abraham Lincoln, 16th President of the United States, must have been a superb negotiator.

Abe once said, “The best way to destroy an enemy, is to make him your friend.”

The key to a successful negotiation is a sincere attempt to understand the other person’s perspective. A negotiation never means lace-up your boxing gloves and prepare for battle!

Don’t be argumentative, confrontational or abrasive. Don’t try to “destroy your enemy.” For if you do, the other side leaves annoyed, frustrated or angered. You both lose. And you have one less trip to make to the bank!

When you negotiate, it should truly be from a win-win position. It’s your opportunity to solve problems, reach agreement and move forward for the benefit of all. Avoid the quick and fleeting hit. Play the game and the relationship for the long-term.


It ain’t fair, yet it’s fact, first impressions influence buying decisions. And especially when buyers can’t physically hold or see your product, they try to find reassurance. That reassurance or peace of mind is often provided by your presence and professionalism.

Daily, decision-makers are bombarded by countless external stimuli: from travel, work, advertising, the media and your competitors.

Many times, these external factors and buying influencers are analyzed quickly. Buyers make snap judgments and then are off and running, ready to attack the next crisis. Therefore, you want to make sure every judgment made about your products, your services, your company, your communication and especially you, is positive and favorable.

According to my friend, communications specialist Lynn Pearl, “You only have five seconds when you enter a room to make a positive impression. A confident manner characterized by a strong stride, a friendly smile, good posture and a genuine sense of energy commands respect.”

Studies have even shown a firm handshake, good eye contact, or simply remembering names are critical sales and business-growth skills.

So how’s your image impact?


Don’t be driven by only commissions, quotas or contests. These are your motivators, not your decision-maker’s.

Today’s buyers don’t simply want a product or a service, they want you. And they expect you to be a consultant. A strategic adviser. A partner. Partners are invaluable. Vendors are expendable.

Don’t peddle products and services. Instead, deliver results and value. And know two crucial things about value:

– First, always deliver more in perceived value than you take in actual cash value.

– And second, realize, in the absence of a value barometer, your relationship is

reduced to a price eliminator.

For years, I’ve had a card called Values written by John Ruskin. It says:

“It’s unwise to pay too much, but it’s unwise to pay too little. When you pay too much you lose a little money, that is all. When you pay too little, you sometimes lose everything, because the thing you bought was incapable of doing the thing you bought it to do. The law of business balance prohibits paying a little and getting a lot. It can’t be done. If you deal with the lowest bidder, it’s well to add something for the risk you run. And if you do that, you will have enough to pay for something better.”


Why is it, we some times ignore those who pay our salary? How come we often neglect the lifeblood of our business? Why is it, we forget about the people who help us buy our home, car, clothes and raise our family?

Are we selfish? Rude? Arrogant? Uncaring? No!

Maybe, it’s just we often get too excited about the chase, the opportunity to clinch the new deal, reel in the big one or land that tough-to-get prospect! We forget about the significance of the customer!

Today’s customers and clients are more sophisticated and more demanding. They have higher expectations. And they can afford to be that way. Because they know if you don’t serve them, your competitors will.

Years ago, the deity was greed. Now and throughout the 21st century, it’s service!

With your commitment to service, you boost retention and profitability. Without it, you jeopardize your future.

Selling without serving is a dangerous game. The penalties are severe. And the penalties aren’t measured in yardage, points or minutes. The penalties are measured in lost dollars. Your lost dollars.

When you serve, you soar!


Jeff is a Hall of Fame speaker, best selling author, success coach, broadcaster and lawyer. His clients call him a “business-growth specialist.” If you hire speakers, please contact Sheryl Kantor at: 847.998.0688 or [email protected]. And visit to learn more about his other business-growth tools and to subscribe to Jeff’s FREE e-letter, The Results Report. Jeff’s Amazon bestselling books include; Stop Whining! Start Selling!, the 5th edition of Peak Your Profits and the recently published, (December, 2022), BULLSEYE! Hitting Your Targets at Home and at Work, which became a best seller within four days of its release. You can also stay connected with Jeff via Facebook, LinkedIn and Twitter: @BlackmanResults

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